Wow! Spring is over and Summer is just beginning,.........finally! With the end of Spring comes school breaks and grads. Last week I was looking at the local newspaper at the 2014 High School grads from near by towns in my area. As I read, I couldn't help but notice that all the girls were planning on going into the workforce or to university this Fall to study business, science, nursing, etc.
I was starting to get a little discouraged and this thought was running through my mind,''What's the reason I'm staying home again? Why didn't I go to university when I graduated?'' And then I came to a girl who's future plans was to become a stay-at-home Mom and take some future education! Then I remembered. God's call for me was to stay home to prepare myself and learn how to be a Biblical Homemaker. I was absolutely thrilled! I could hardly believe it! This young lady was so bold to put her life's dream into the paper! I was so excited for her and myself when I realized that being a stay-at-home Mom is the best job out there. It was such an encouragement to know that I wasn't the only one, as it feels like that sometimes.
I just thought that I'd send that encouragement to you fellow stay-at-home daughters. Our hearts' desire and dream to be that godly, Proverbs 31 and Titus 2, woman, is so big that there is no university out there that can help, teach, and encourage us to keep going. Sadly, today's society doesn't think so. They brain wash all the young ladies that we HAVE TO get that job, career, or degree. I'm sorry society, but I decided to stand up to what I know is right and to take the opposite direction to a much more happier and fruitful life!
K. J. Hepburn
I am new to this blog but from a similar background; home schooled conservatively, raised on a farm/ranch and encouraged to embrace being a wife and a mom. However, I was not taught that being a wife and a mother was the be all, end all. You see, not every girl who wants to get married and have children will in fact do those things. I would say that if these two things do come to you than do it with all your heart. What about the in between time though or those who never get married or have children. It seems to me that to only stay at home and prepare to be a wife and mom may not be the best use of one's time. My parent's encouraged my sisters and I to go get some education so that we could support ourselves while single. I became a nurse and have been very grateful that God directed me to that because when I did get married my husband worked at a job that he loved and gave him excellent experience that he needed but didn't provide enough to support us. I continued to work as a nurse to supplement our income. My husband greatly appreciated this. He also appreciates the fact that because I didn't stay at home til I got married but supported myself and lived on my one I know how to handle money, pay bills, understand insurance for health and cars etc. We now have a baby and our plan is that my primary job now will be a stay at home mom. I'm excited for that but I don't think I would have been any bettered prepared to be a wife and mom if I had stayed home. I also would have never met my wonderful husband as I met him at the school I went to for my nursing education. Oddly enough not a huge number of single guys just walk onto your father's farm and ask for your hand in marriage in SW Saskatchewan!
ReplyDeleteHow does one go about preparing to be a godly wife and mom anyway? To me it is a short sighted view to have those to roles at the forefront of our minds. To be a wife and mom or our desire to be those things is not what should define us. Our relationship with Christ is what should define us and should be our greatest concern and I believe if it is our priority will well prepare us for whatever is ahead of us in life regardless of whether we stay at home or go get further education in the meantime.
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DeleteHi Colleen! Thanks for your thoughts. I'll take this time to tell you a little about myself so maybe you can see where I'm coming from. I graduated in 2013, so I just turned 19 a few months ago. A year before I graduated, I realized that I would ''have to'' move out and go to university, although I didn't know what for. During that time, I felt God had shown me that he didn't want me to take that route. Therefore I was very frightened. I didn't even talk to my parents about it, which was a mistake, but they seemed to know. That year at the homeschooling convention, my parents had bought a DVD called ''Return of the Daughters''. That documentary encouraged me immensely! My parents told me afterwards that they felt that university wasn't for me and they weren't going to kick me out after I graduated either. Now to get this straight, I'm not against girls going to university. But I would expect from Christian girls that they should follow God's call and not their heart because the heart can be deceptive. If God's calling a certain young lady to go to university or Bible School then she should do it, but if He isn't, then she shouldn't. You see, most of the time I have noticed Christian girls going to university because they want to please self, or they are going because they don't know what to do and just to follow the crowd. Therefore, they are wasting they're time and their money. For me, I am not wired for university, to be honest, I would rather die first then go to university. My parents are all for education, but they also encourage us to be entrepreneurs. So with my parents blessing, I chose to stay at home to work on my pitiful cooking and housekeeping skills, and to help my dad with our cattle herd for the time being. Besides that, just this Fall, I started a Bible college course from home and a online Photography college course. I'm a very artistic minded person, so I did some searching and realized that online courses is far cheaper then going to university for the same stuff, or less, in the long run. I feel God leading me to start my own Photography business, not to use as a career, but to use as a tool to bring God the glory first and foremost, and secondly, to have as a way to have income if ever my future family is in a tough, financial spot in life. I also believe that young adults shouldn't just sit around twiddling their thumbs and then go looking high and low for their future spouse. If you're busy doing God's will, God will send that special some one to you at the right time, or send you to him. I felt God leading me down this path for the time being, but if He latter calls me to university or Bible School, I'll go. Now, I also know for a fact, that there are hundreds of girls with the same convictions as me, and that's why I wrote this post. I believe my discouragement bought was Satan trying to get me to veer off God's chosen path for me. Then God used that girl who wanted to be a stay-at-home mom to show me that there is no job on earth higher then that. Our feminist society today tells us girls that we are to be equal with the men, have a career like the men, and therefore, most of the time, marriage and children are out of the question. I take Titus 2:3-5 seriously. I hope this helps you see where I'm coming from on this topic. I highly recommend the book ''No More Wasted Years'' by Olivia Brodock. I hope all this makes sense and I hope you'll continue to read our blog!
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